Hey, Nidhi. I am Punam and read your comment on becoming mother dilemma so thought of sharing my experience. To be a mother is always a huge responsibility and even I had loads of confusion when I was about to be a mother.
In my situation, it was all our decision to have a baby and others saying its too early because we had been married for only a year and half!! I was afraid of the responsibilities and wanted to learn how to run and take care of home before I became a mom.
Those days, even though ours was a love marriage, we used to have enough heated discussions to make me reluctant to go for a baby. I always used to think that excess of arguments between me and my husband means there is less understanding and that’s not good for the baby.
In a nut shell, I wanted to have a few years for ourselves to understand each other before we expanded the family. But, then, the question came to whether the disagreements would ever end? I mean howsoever much you might love or understand a person, everyone has their own opinion.
Me and my mom also fight till date even though we have a 27 year old relationship not considering her being my mom fact!! First Advantage: Our relationship and understanding improved with the baby. Second Advantage: Kids become THE ultimate excuse
If you tend to be a little on the late side for social events and really hate having to iron, guess what? You have a built-in excuse for tardiness, slovenly dressing, and a whole host of other things. “Sorry, but with the baby and all, it’s practically impossible to [fill in the blank].” Hell, you’ll even get to leave boring parties early! 😀
The reason why I am writing this post is because of a comment by one of the readers Nidhi. She wrote this –
i do not know whether my comment(question) would be apt here or not..but i would like to know ..is becoming a mother a good thing ?
i mean..i feel scared with all the responsibilities,pain,stretch marks,no time for self..and the list goes on.
my family is pressurising me and i do not know what is right ?
i love kids..may be am just scared of the responsibilities..but i want to know what good things happen after you become a mother (so that i can convince myself 🙂
First of all, any question or doubt you might have you can always speak of it so feel free to comment 🙂 And, yes, thank you for putting up such a major issue. In fact, one of my colleagues is also going through the same phase.
She has been married for three years and now, the pressure from both sides of her family is impossible for hear to bear, in fact so much that she thinks it better to get a baby and relieved of the burden. But, the real wish was known when she suddenly started having her periods after a long spell and she shared with me how relieved she felt after that. Clearly, she is not mentally ready for it.
Today is World’s Heart Day. So, I am borrowing this article from The Hindu Magazine, September 23, 2012. They had published a small article on how to take care of the heart. I shall try not to infringe on the copyright and am again asserting that this post may end up being a copy of the article. So, the entire credit for the post goes to the Hindu newspaper.
Symptoms of CVD in women
feeling of discomfort between breasts or behind breastbone
pain radiating over arms, back, neck, jaw or stomach
shortness of breath, weakness or fatigue
unusual anxiety or nervousness
indigestion or nausea
sudden sweating, dizziness and collapse
How to Prevent?
Be physically active!!! Walk or exercise daily.
Avoid salt, sugar and fatty foods. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables.
Maintain a healthy weight.
Quit smoking and avoid respiratory irritants.
Limit or stop alcohol.
If you have lung problem, get influenza vaccination annually.
Why should you take proper sleep?
Reducing Belly Fat
Daily Body Massage to cleanse your body
Sexy @ Sixty
Update: I watched ‘Pyar Ka Panchnama’ today and loved it. Its hilarious and emotional at the same time. And, the guys are all cute. If you have missed it, I would really suggest you to go and watch it right away. The full movie is available on youtube. This is the link for the movie and I am embedding a clip which talks about girl temperament when girls are not even PMSing 😀 Do watch it.