Hi Dear Reader! Wish you and your loved ones a very happy new year. May 2016 bring you new opportunities and new successes. Yesterday, I had reposted an old post from the first day of 2015. On the same lines, I am again doing a post again with renewed wisdom to help you begin new year with new thoughts.
Hope you relate to them! And, I would also love you to share the same. Any incident, any lesson, anything which turned you into a different person than you are or were!
#1. Never Regret for Past even if you were wrong
There is a reason past remains in the past. Once it is done with, it is out of your life. Yes, it will always define you but living in it or regretting it or wanting to change it is something which is not possible and best avoided.
In fact, if you are truly repentant about something you have done dreadfully wrong (apart from actually murdering someone or inflicting major body harm), there would come a sign sooner or later that would turn everything fine.
The day this would happen, you would stop living with your burdens but till that event actually happens, you do not have to carry your baggage around. Just be happy and never think harmful about anyone, howsoever wrong they may be!
#2. Accept Your Present Gracefully
Once you wash your hands off your past, remember that your present is your choice. No one has the ability or authority to force you into something which you do not like. If you are in a situation, you have had your influence in making it so.
So, stop blaming everyone else and make an effort to improve the situation. If you still do not want to make an effort, just keep quiet, do not do anything and avoid confrontation (which will only end in blame games).
#3. Focus to Understand and Love Yourself
This is something which one realizes only when they reach their 30’s. But, understanding yourself, prioritizing your life, listing down your needs and wants, a step further towards your spiritual achievements gain an upper hand.
Once you start spending time with yourself and struggle to get your needs and wants, as long as they are justified, you explore your own self. You should definitely live alone and travel alone at least once in your life. Unless you love yourself completely, you will never be able to invest the same love in anyone else.
#4. You should Respect Time
Just narrating a small incident. Very lately I had a little altercation with my parents. I was really upset and wanted to leave asap. Then, my mom said one thing which shook me to the core. She said “never leave a house in anger, you never know when it turns out to be the last time“.
It is really scary but absolute truth but you never know what will happen when. Something similar happened 15 years back. Me and my mom had visited our grand parents after my 10th boards and just fifteen days later, my grandfather passed away. I am just thankful that we got time to see him before he left.
Any relation is similar. Be happy, give respect and make up your difference while you still have time because you never know what it is in the destiny. Anything is better than a lifelong regret. Also, give your whole to your family while you are with them. Stop watching television while someone is speaking to you, stop staring into your mobile during family dinners, nothing annoys more!!
#5. Marriage is Complicated
Yes, absolutely! Relationship is very different from marriage. You can have been in a stable relation for years together but once married, the dynamics change. There are just whole lot of other people involved with you both. It is true that marriage happens between families.
Many people, the immediate families and closed ones, come into play. Their wishes, their expectations, their dreams, their approvals, everything starts mattering and that can take a toll on you both. So, draw a line. Always treat your own family as an individual unit and make sure others, elders or younger, respect the line as well.
These are just a few things which I have learned over the course of this year. Or, I would realized. Because, of course we know how important time is and how complicated relations can be. But, nothing you have not experienced can be understood in the same terms.